My Life – The Finale

Posted on March 30th, 2008 by Jean

My Life ~ Part 1
My Life ~ Part 2
My Life ~ Part 3
My Life ~ Part 4
 
I want to thank all of you who reached out to comfort me after I posted Part 4. I thought I could just *talk* about my life, and not be affected by emotion. But, well, that wasn’t the case. Thank you.
 
My Life ~ Part 5
 
I had just started a new job as a typesetter for a publishing company. I also had just been given the news that my In Vitro Fertilization had failed. That devastating loss was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I turned to one of my bosses for consoling. Tom. Yes, my Tom. We fell madly in love.
 

 
The thing about love is, baby makes three.
 

 
I know we didn’t do things in socially acceptable order, but we did get things done. It was a long process, clearing the way for our love.
 

Wedding Night 2003
 
We moved in together. George filed for divorce. Tom and his business partner reached an agreement on how to split their assets. Yes, there was a LOT of drama. The police were involved: George pulled a gun on me when I told him I was leaving. The courts were involved: Natalie had to go through DNA testing to prove Tom was her father. Her birth certificate had to be corrected because, in the state of Arizona, your husband (who was not the father) must go on the certificate. We were tied up in the courts for several years just straightening that out. Tom bought his partner out of the business, and April (2008) marks the 1st time in 5 years that we are free & clear of that debt.
 
Tom and I were married in December of 2003, and Pearl was born in December of 2004.
 

 
We continue to love eachother and live in happiness with mutual respect and adoration.
 

 
We two middle-aged adults have been given the opportunity of a lifetime, to be parents at long last!
 

 
Maybe that’s why we spoil them, because we waited so long for them to enter our lives.
 

 
All I know is that I’ve never been happier. I feel so blessed!
 
So please remember to never give up. Life is a long journey, with many ups and downs. I’m grateful to have gone through the lows so I can so appreciate the highs.
 
That concludes My Life series. Thank you for hanging in there when I never even knew how I was going to put this into writing. Sorry to have glossed over the low-lights of this blog, but I cannot put myself into that black hole again at this time. I want to think of the positive, and move forward. If I can help anyone in any way with further details of my story, please do not hesitate to contact me.
 
Thanks for reading!

Tags: biography, life

My Life – The Finale

Posted on March 30th, 2008 by Jean

My Life ~ Part 1
My Life ~ Part 2
My Life ~ Part 3
My Life ~ Part 4
 
I want to thank all of you who reached out to comfort me after I posted Part 4. I thought I could just *talk* about my life, and not be affected by emotion. But, well, that wasn’t the case. Thank you.
 
My Life ~ Part 5
 
I had just started a new job as a typesetter for a publishing company. I also had just been given the news that my In Vitro Fertilization had failed. That devastating loss was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I turned to one of my bosses for consoling. Tom. Yes, my Tom. We fell madly in love.
 

 
The thing about love is, baby makes three.
 

 
I know we didn’t do things in socially acceptable order, but we did get things done. It was a long process, clearing the way for our love.
 

Wedding Night 2003
 
We moved in together. George filed for divorce. Tom and his business partner reached an agreement on how to split their assets. Yes, there was a LOT of drama. The police were involved: George pulled a gun on me when I told him I was leaving. The courts were involved: Natalie had to go through DNA testing to prove Tom was her father. Her birth certificate had to be corrected because, in the state of Arizona, your husband (who was not the father) must go on the certificate. We were tied up in the courts for several years just straightening that out. Tom bought his partner out of the business, and April (2008) marks the 1st time in 5 years that we are free & clear of that debt.
 
Tom and I were married in December of 2003, and Pearl was born in December of 2004.
 

 
We continue to love eachother and live in happiness with mutual respect and adoration.
 

 
We two middle-aged adults have been given the opportunity of a lifetime, to be parents at long last!
 

 
Maybe that’s why we spoil them, because we waited so long for them to enter our lives.
 

 
All I know is that I’ve never been happier. I feel so blessed!
 
So please remember to never give up. Life is a long journey, with many ups and downs. I’m grateful to have gone through the lows so I can so appreciate the highs.
 
That concludes My Life series. Thank you for hanging in there when I never even knew how I was going to put this into writing. Sorry to have glossed over the low-lights of this blog, but I cannot put myself into that black hole again at this time. I want to think of the positive, and move forward. If I can help anyone in any way with further details of my story, please do not hesitate to contact me.
 
Thanks for reading!

Tags: biography, life

My Life – Part 4

Posted on March 16th, 2008 by Jean

My Life ~ Part 1
My Life ~ Part 2
My Life ~ Part 3

My Life ~ Part 4
 
I began my new job as a bank teller in the town I now call home. I was excited to be around people, and anticipated making friends and getting out of my depressing funk.
 
One of the ladies I worked with, Stephanie, was a whole lot of fun! We enjoyed eachother’s company, and even managed to go shopping together one weekend.
 
Stephanie had a playful way about her, and must have grown up being physical, because she managed to bruise my arm a few times with a poke or a sock. When George happened to see the bruise on my arm, that was the end of that. He bullied me for 45 minutes until I called my supervisor to report the *assault*. The next day, while I was at work, the Bank President requested a conference call with the Bank Manager, Stephanie and me. George had gone over everyone’s head to report this *assault* to the President. We three ladies were stunned, and ashamed. Stephanie actually ran from the building in tears. Not only was our friendship over, but the wheels were turning that one, or both, of us should find a new job.
 
I think this is part of the control issue. Although I was away from home, George had a way of still taking control.
 
On top of all this, George decided we should use our savings to try In Vitro Fertilization. A baby ~ my heart was still longing.
 
I have to say, this is getting harder to put into words. While it might seem like a blip online, this relationship lasted 13 years.
 
We began IVF treatments in Las Vegas. I began taking hormones to increase my egg production. I would drive down to Lake Havasu a few times a week for ultrasounds to see how the eggs were fairing.
 
During this same time, a local publisher who banked with us, came in looking for additional typesetters for her office. I told her I was qualified, and set up an appointment to meet with her.
 
I was quickly hired due to my limited experience typing a local newsletter and my excessive experience playing on computers.
 
Eight eggs became viable, and 2 were fertilized in the Las Vegas clinic. The 2 were inserted, and the anxious wait began. One week later, bloodwork showed I was pregnant. Two weeks later… I waited to hear about the latest bloodwork. And waited. And waited. I was sitting at my desk at my new job, trying to stay focused and positive. George called… both babies were gone. I have never, ever known such absolute sadness. I was hollow.
 
I have to go compose myself now. Love you all. Thank you for reading.
 
The Finale has now been posted.

Tags: biography, life