My Life – Part 3

Posted on March 15th, 2008 by Jean

My Life ~ Part 1

My Life ~ Part 2
 
This is it, Part 3. This is so difficult for me to write, but I started the story and must continue.
 
After 2 years living on the road, George realized we would never own a home again unless he returned to work.
 
At this time, a few airport towers were being managed by civilians. George was accepted as an employee at the tower in Appleton, Wisconsin.
 
We rented a U-Haul truck, got all of our furniture out of storage, put George’s car on the tow-dolly, and we headed down the road. I drove the motorhome across country, from California to Wisconsin, and he drove the rental truck.
 
In Appleton, we put the RV in storage, and rented an apartment. George worked, and I stayed home. I was isolated. True, I had been isolated on the road, but here I was totally stranded. I was depressed. I rarely got dressed, and spent most the day on the couch, curled up with my cat.
 
I also began having the desire to become a mom.
 
My husband flew back to Sacramento and reversed his vasectomy. He didn’t want to become a father again at this stage of his life, but if I wanted to be a mother, he would help.
 
We tried, for a full year, to no avail.
 
The year was up in Wisconsin, and we were transferred to Bullhead City, Arizona. Yes, we’d do 1 year of cold weather if we could then transfer to a hot climate.
 
George worked, and I sat in our motorhome at an RV park. My only friend in this town was one of George’s co-workers, Gita. Boy did we have some fun! But Gita had to go on to bigger & better things (hello, San Diego).
 
George and I bought a manufactured home in a small, rural town about 20 miles south of Bullhead. Just a few months into our house payments, George was fired for insubordination. He had falsified his time cards, and refused to follow his boss’s orders. Days prior to his termination, his boss had told him to no longer carry his gun onto the airport property. I think his boss knew he had a short fuse too.
 
So, here we are with a mortgage. Now what?
 
I returned to the workforce.
 
This was my saving grace, getting back out into public.
 
I was quickly hired as a bank teller in town. While I worked, George sat at home. With no job, he began each day with brandy & wine again.
 
My Life ~ Part 4

My Life – Part 2

Posted on March 15th, 2008 by Jean

A few weeks ago, I wrote My Life ~ Part 1. Here is the continuing story.
 
Three months into my first marriage, my husband asked me for a divorce. We began living separate lives while residing under one roof.
 
I consulted a temp. agency, and they lined me up with a new job. I became a secretary for Dreyer’s Grand Ice Cream. Just prior to leaving my banking job, I accepted a date with a customer. He would become husband number 2.
 
My life was all fresh & new, no longer crumbling.
 
The job lasted one year, and then I was layed off. I returned to banking, this time as a loan secretary (typing all the loan docs).
 
My relationship was exciting. George was 21 years my senior, and I looked up to him. He was 46, I 25. We would have dinner in San Francisco, explore Napa Valley on the wine train, had season tickets to the Oakland A’s baseball games, etc. We seemed very compatible.
 
Three years into my relationship with George, he retired from his career as an Air Traffic Controller. We never intended to marry, but he wanted me to inherit his monthly annuity should something happen to him. We were married in a private ceremony, this time with family members present.
 
After the wedding, we bought an RV. All of our furniture was put into storage. My car was part of the down payment on the motorhome. George’s car was loaned to his youngest daughter. Yes, he had two grown daughters, just a few years younger than me, and 3 grandchildren.
 
What I haven’t mentioned so far is that George was an alcoholic. I didn’t grow up around alcohol. At first, I was intrigued that George and I would share of bottle (or jug) of wine each evening. Much later, I came to realize he was a functioning alcoholic. But, when his career was over, he had no reason to stay sober.
 
We traveled across the US 4 times over 2 years, staying with his friends in Sarasota Florida both winters. We visited his family in North Carolina, and many state parks and monuments.
 
But this retired George would start each morning with alcohol. He added Brandy to his intake. Shots of brandy with a wine chaser. There were some frightening evenings where he would do asinine things (wave a gun around, let his dog loose in an RV campground in the middle of the night, cook dinner while drunk). Soon, all I wanted was to be back home.
 
Funny thing is, when we traveled back to California, I didn’t want to leave him. I was in my own little cocoon. I had no friends, no car, no money. There’s a comfort level with the known.
 
Part 3 has now been posted.

My Life – Part 2

Posted on March 15th, 2008 by Jean

A few weeks ago, I wrote My Life ~ Part 1. Here is the continuing story.
 
Three months into my first marriage, my husband asked me for a divorce. We began living separate lives while residing under one roof.
 
I consulted a temp. agency, and they lined me up with a new job. I became a secretary for Dreyer’s Grand Ice Cream. Just prior to leaving my banking job, I accepted a date with a customer. He would become husband number 2.
 
My life was all fresh & new, no longer crumbling.
 
The job lasted one year, and then I was layed off. I returned to banking, this time as a loan secretary (typing all the loan docs).
 
My relationship was exciting. George was 21 years my senior, and I looked up to him. He was 46, I 25. We would have dinner in San Francisco, explore Napa Valley on the wine train, had season tickets to the Oakland A’s baseball games, etc. We seemed very compatible.
 
Three years into my relationship with George, he retired from his career as an Air Traffic Controller. We never intended to marry, but he wanted me to inherit his monthly annuity should something happen to him. We were married in a private ceremony, this time with family members present.
 
After the wedding, we bought an RV. All of our furniture was put into storage. My car was part of the down payment on the motorhome. George’s car was loaned to his youngest daughter. Yes, he had two grown daughters, just a few years younger than me, and 3 grandchildren.
 
What I haven’t mentioned so far is that George was an alcoholic. I didn’t grow up around alcohol. At first, I was intrigued that George and I would share of bottle (or jug) of wine each evening. Much later, I came to realize he was a functioning alcoholic. But, when his career was over, he had no reason to stay sober.
 
We traveled across the US 4 times over 2 years, staying with his friends in Sarasota Florida both winters. We visited his family in North Carolina, and many state parks and monuments.
 
But this retired George would start each morning with alcohol. He added Brandy to his intake. Shots of brandy with a wine chaser. There were some frightening evenings where he would do asinine things (wave a gun around, let his dog loose in an RV campground in the middle of the night, cook dinner while drunk). Soon, all I wanted was to be back home.
 
Funny thing is, when we traveled back to California, I didn’t want to leave him. I was in my own little cocoon. I had no friends, no car, no money. There’s a comfort level with the known.
 
Part 3 has now been posted.

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